A Thought To Husbands

A Thought to husbands

How you think about one another is key to intimacy.

To feel controlled within a marriage devastates individuality. Individuality is key to freedom.

Control is connected to bondage and bondage is not freedom.
Compliance is neither creative nor energizing. One loses one's identity in compliance. Compliance is not freedom.

If how you think about one another is key to intimacy, feeling controlled does not open one up to good thoughts any way you slice it.

If you don't believe Who is in control then you'll always live life trying to be.

Fear is connected to insecurity, insecurity is connected to a lack of confidence, connected to self-loathing, "which is" compensated by control.

Your identity is accepting who a sovereign God says you are - He then proved it by giving up His life for yours! Phil. 2:5 "Have this mind among yourselves, which IS YOURS in Christ Jesus, 6 who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, 7 but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. 8 And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross."

This act of "service" by God in the person of Jesus brought you abundant life. How did he do that? By setting you free.

This is the same picture playing out everyday for a husband toward his wife!

When we have been loved, we love. When we have been forgiven, we forgive. When we have been served, we serve. You've been served!

Your past no longer defines your value. Your perceived value is the key that gives freedom to your wife. What does that look like? You are comfortable with you, your environment, and the freedom she has living with you.

When you embrace this truth you will see her creativity restored and your marriage energized! How? Refer back to the first sentence - > what she thinks about you will change - love, acceptance and forgiveness has that way about it.

Embracing God's sovereignty doesn't mean circumstances have to change..... because your heart does....and you know that changes everything!

Just so you're clear about this conclusion: In God's sovereignty you are loved, accepted, chosen, forgiven and have value. When that is embraced, you have no problem giving God control because you are in His.

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